Domestic Violence “Doesn’t Discriminate” part 1

Posted on September 25, 2012


Photo by Jeff Widener

Domestic Violence “Doesn’t Discriminate”, it can happen to anyone, regardless of your race, gender, color, age, income, success. There are many myths about Domestic Violence, we need to bring about the dialogues in society to change the stigma of the many myths & misconceptions out there, as it’s “the VICTIMS fault” and other beliefs. We can all help bring the necessary dialogues to the forefront of our communities.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, lets not wait for the next ambulance to take someone away. Bring out your voice, inform and support, help someone walk away from the hurts and the shame.

Help bring the necessary dialogues to the forefront of our communities by talking opening about Domestic Violence, lets turn the Shame into “A life saved”, which may be your own, or someone you love.” I know I found the people and support to walk away from the Abuse.

And it isn’t only happening to women, even though statistic show more women become victims. Many men, transgenders and children may go through Domestic Violence in their lives. Become aware and look for the red flags that you may be heading towards or in a Domestic Violence relationship.

Things you should think about if you have a violent partner or your currently in danger create a safety plan. Take some steps, make a plan.

Some things I have learned on my own journey to walk away from Domestic Violence:

1) Have a charged Cell phone with you at all times, even if you lost your phone services, any cell phone that is charged can call 911.

2) Keep a bag packed and ready to go and easy to grab, with clothes, toiletries or medications you need.

3) Start thinking about and set-up a safe place to go in advance so you can leave the situation before it escalates, and you could be trapped or harmed.

4) If you have minor Children teach your children to call 911 and let them know it is okay to call for help.

5) Keep your important documents with you, or packed or at safe alternative place like a trusting neighbor or relative, so you have them once you leave.

6) Find the numbers and call a Domestic Violence program for help.

7) Let a relative, a good friend or Co-worker who you can trust what is going on for support and to alert police should your situation get worse.

8) Continue to build on your plan to increase your safety and to stop further violence.

Remember you do not have control over your partners violence, but you do have choices, remember the past acts of violence and get out to safety.

In Honolulu you can get help and more information at the Domestic Abuse Hotline call for information at 808-841-0822.

Let’s remember those who did not find the path to get out, be safe and walk away. “Jenny Hartsock was stabbed to death in 2008.” Several months before Jenny Hartstock’s death, Jenny was seriously injured in what her husband told police was an accident. He said he was cleaning a knife when he tripped and fell on her as she slept in a bedroom. The knife landed with such force that it went completely through one of Jenny’s legs and into the other. Jenny’s Family (the Uejo’s) said Roy Hartsock continued to fool authorities who classified the stabbing as an accident. Her brother Kelly and the Ujeo’s reminded us that “The system completely failed her.”

Follow our updates of this series of Articles – Domestic Violence “Doesn’t Discriminate”, find events you can participant in & support, information and suggestions from experts to help yourself or someone who may be in a Domestic Violence situation.

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